How are you? I’m pregnant.
So, actually telling people that I’m pregnant is a little weird. Telling my husband wasn’t even easy (it was weird), and he knew of our plans!
My hands were shaking when I told my parents, and I was nervous when Bob told his dad and brother.
I can’t tell you why, but I was. Maybe because this is an actual admission of what we’ve been doing in our spare time. We’ve been married 4 years, so I’m sure it’s expected and known, but I certainly don’t talk about it with family!
Once we told family, and got it confirmed by the doctor, I decided I didn’t want to tell people until we were into the second trimester. I thought Bob felt the same way, but apparently not. He told all of his co-workers, all of his friends and even the refrigerator repairman who came to fix our busted freezer.
My parents also told everyone and anyone who would listen.
I only told my best friend from high school and two co-workers that I really liked and trusted.
Telling them was a little weird, too. I knew they would all be happy and excited, (which they were) but still.
A week later I told my boss because my mom was convinced she would be mad (she wasn’t). I was so nervous that I think the way I approached her had her worried too.
Me: (taking a deep breath and looking very serious) “I have some news.”
Her: (tentative and worried) “What?”
Me: “I’m pregnant.”
Her: “Congratulations!!”
Then, I just kept my mouth shut and tried not to act too obvious about my pregnancy for 4 weeks. Working with mainly men, this was extremely easy.
When I was 11 weeks pregnant, we went to my ten year high school reunion. Since lots of my classmates have kids or were pregnant, this should have been the easiest place in the world for me to tell my news.
It was still uncomfortable, but I had to do it now. I had gained four pounds and felt huge. I was bound and determined to let them know why I had gained that weight since I had last seen them.
Telling them was just awkward. They would be talking about life or food and I would just blurt out, “Well, I’m pregnant.”
Obviously, the people I told were excited, but there were lots of people I didn’t tell because I just didn't know how to fit it into the conversation.
Fellow Graduate: DC’s hot!
Me: Yes, it’s as hot as Mississippi in the summer.
FG: No, I meant kind of cool.
Me: Oh… that too!
End of conversation.
Now where would "I'm pregnant fit in?"
Just to let you know, I also sewed and designed the clothes I wore to the reunion (I was a little overdressed, but to quote my fellow graduate, I looked “hot!”) Did I tell people? Not really. One graduate worked in fashion and Bob told her that I had designed my dress. I also managed to tell one group of girls and they spread the word a little, but for the most part, I just kept that to myself as well.
If I can’t tell the world that I designed and sewed the kick-ass dress I wore to the reunion, how can I tell people I’m pregnant?
My hands were shaking when I told my parents, and I was nervous when Bob told his dad and brother.
I can’t tell you why, but I was. Maybe because this is an actual admission of what we’ve been doing in our spare time. We’ve been married 4 years, so I’m sure it’s expected and known, but I certainly don’t talk about it with family!
Once we told family, and got it confirmed by the doctor, I decided I didn’t want to tell people until we were into the second trimester. I thought Bob felt the same way, but apparently not. He told all of his co-workers, all of his friends and even the refrigerator repairman who came to fix our busted freezer.
My parents also told everyone and anyone who would listen.
I only told my best friend from high school and two co-workers that I really liked and trusted.
Telling them was a little weird, too. I knew they would all be happy and excited, (which they were) but still.
A week later I told my boss because my mom was convinced she would be mad (she wasn’t). I was so nervous that I think the way I approached her had her worried too.
Me: (taking a deep breath and looking very serious) “I have some news.”
Her: (tentative and worried) “What?”
Me: “I’m pregnant.”
Her: “Congratulations!!”
Then, I just kept my mouth shut and tried not to act too obvious about my pregnancy for 4 weeks. Working with mainly men, this was extremely easy.
When I was 11 weeks pregnant, we went to my ten year high school reunion. Since lots of my classmates have kids or were pregnant, this should have been the easiest place in the world for me to tell my news.
It was still uncomfortable, but I had to do it now. I had gained four pounds and felt huge. I was bound and determined to let them know why I had gained that weight since I had last seen them.
Telling them was just awkward. They would be talking about life or food and I would just blurt out, “Well, I’m pregnant.”
Obviously, the people I told were excited, but there were lots of people I didn’t tell because I just didn't know how to fit it into the conversation.
Fellow Graduate: DC’s hot!
Me: Yes, it’s as hot as Mississippi in the summer.
FG: No, I meant kind of cool.
Me: Oh… that too!
End of conversation.
Now where would "I'm pregnant fit in?"
Just to let you know, I also sewed and designed the clothes I wore to the reunion (I was a little overdressed, but to quote my fellow graduate, I looked “hot!”) Did I tell people? Not really. One graduate worked in fashion and Bob told her that I had designed my dress. I also managed to tell one group of girls and they spread the word a little, but for the most part, I just kept that to myself as well.
If I can’t tell the world that I designed and sewed the kick-ass dress I wore to the reunion, how can I tell people I’m pregnant?
posted by Pregnantly Plump at 11:28 PM
5 Comments:
Hi Prengantly Plump,
I just read your post about telling people about your pregnancy. I am in the same boat! I had the hardest time telling people, including my own family and very close friends. I had my husband tell my own parents! I was 20 weeks before I told anyone and now I am 32 weeks and still can't tell my boss. I only work a few hours a day and every time I go to work I swear that I will tell her but I just can't! I don't know why but I am now getting anxiety about it and she has asked me to help her with breaking some hores which I definitly can't do. I can't believe that she has not figued it out yet but I know that she does not know I am pregnant. What should I do? How should I tell her? Would it be horrible to leave a note seeing as we are the only two who work on the farm? It is only getting harder and now I know she will be mad. Sorry for the rant but I figured you'd understand.
~Obviously Pregnant
Hi anonymous,
I didn't really know where else to respond to you. I'm not an expert or advice columnist, but maybe your boss will be really happy for you. I think you should tell her face-to-face. I just knew my boss (of 2 weeks) would be mad, and she was extremely thrilled for me. Good luck. Please feel free to email me if you'd like to talk.
Hi Ladies,
I'm glad I came across your post because I too am pregnant and nervous to tell people. I have one daugther already (2.5 years) and am now 9 weeks prego.
My first pregnancy was terrible; severe depression, anxiety, sickness, etc... I've since been to counseling and feel great about being pregnant this time.
However, I keep having nightmares about telling my mother! With my firt pregnancy, my mom was super excited...but I wasn't. I was so depressed that her excitement and comments only made me feel worse. It's difficult to explain, but it was pretty bad. I even stopped speaking to her for a while because I couldn't handle her telling me to ignore my feelings and just be happy.
I now live a mile from my parents, in a small town. I'm excited to be pregnant, but not looking forward to the attention and questions that comes with it.
I guess in my rambling I'm trying to figure out how and when I should tell my mom. Part of me hopes that if I tell her, the anxiety dreams will stop. But I'm also nervous that her excitement will and attention will be difficult for me to handle.
Any suggestions?
Dreaming.
I know this is from almost 3 years ago, but man am I glad that I saw it. I am 22 years old, married, and own my own house, yet I am sooo nervous even thinking about telling my parents that I am pregnant. I'm just 4ish weeks, so I still have time to wait, but for some reason, I only imagine disappointment from my parents. I'm sure they'll be happy, but I think the little girl who thinks she should hide having sex is still inside of me! HA!
I know I came across this way late but I have been looking for people who feel this way. I want a child... just am not enjoying being pregnant. My husband is bursting at the seams to tell people and I'm only 8 weeks. I'm thinking of deleting my FB and literally not answering my phone for a month after we "drop the bomb." I just don't want to talk about it. We support ourselves, have been together eight years and married for five. We're in a good place in our relationship. We're both ready for baby... and I don't want to tell a soul until it's here and have no idea why. I feel good that I'm not alone, though, that other people before me who seem perfectly normal are having issues with this too. Thank you for posting.
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