Monday, December 10, 2007

Is there a worst mommy award?

Little Elvis and I went grocery shopping today. Normally we go with Bob on Saturdays. (Digression: Aren't I lucky? Bob is just as big of a cheapie as I am, so he enjoys getting great grocery deals as much as I do. At least he says he does. Maybe he's just a really good husband and goes along to be nice?)

But we went to visit my parents and Bob's dad this weekend, so we didn't get a chance to shop on Saturday. This is why Little Elvis and I went by ourselves.

Why do I need help? Well, we typically hit 3-4 stores and use LOTS of coupons, plus our own bags. It's a lot to carry.

All of that is a bunch of lead up. As we were leaving the final store, I pushed the cart down what I thought was a ramp. It wasn't. The front wheels of the cart slammed to the pavement and Little Elvis' carseat flipped backward and into the cart. He was belted in and there was an empty canvas bag in the cart. I screamed and, hearing my yelp, he started crying. A nice man helped me turn the seat over so I could unbelt my sweet baby and hug him. Little Elvis stopped crying as soon as he was in my arms. I checked him for any sign of injury, and there weren't any.

Shakily, I pushed the cart to the car while carrying Little Elvis. I held him while I put the carseat and groceries in the car and pushed the cart back up to the store. Then I got into the backseat with him and called Bob.

I was crying and Little Elvis cried some, too. I just felt so awful and guilty. Little Elvis is the best thing that's ever happened to me, and I scared him and almost hurt him. I kept apologizing to him for having such a crappy mommy.

I have a shopping cart cozy, but it was in the other car and I was hoping Little Elvis would take a nap. And I'm pretty sure the carseat was properly attached to the cart, because I heard it latch. I told Bob I would always use the shopping cart cozy. He said Little Elvis was probably safer because he was belted in and the carseat belt is much more secure that the cart cozy. I think I might have been able to better see the lack of a ramp had he not been in the carseat.

Anyway, it shouldn't have happened. Who doesn't see a ramp? This is a grocery store we've been to several times. How could I do something so careless? I am so glad our baby is fine.


Blogger Laura said...

My heart goes out to you...accidents happen - thankfully Little Elvis is fine.

i just wrote a blog about my recent accident - called Could-Of, Should-of Would-of - Check it out!

When my second son was 5 weeks old, I went to a play group. It was the first solo outing with me, my 12 month old and my 5 week the parking lot my boot lace got caught in the hook of my other boot and I flipped...I smashed into my 1 year old and "bowled" the car seat containing my 5 week old into the middle of a parking lot! Sprained both my ankles...I did not feel the physical pain - only the emotional pain of it all.

Hang in there...sneding lots of positive vibes for you!

2:11 PM  
Blogger Lainey-Paney said...

AWWW! How scary.

You are NOT the worst mom ever.
Here's why: (1) Britney Spears still exists, and she's still a mother, so clearly you've been knocked out of the running. (2) It was an accident. An accident. You did not intentionally hurt your child. In fact, he was/is fine. You did not hurt him. He was just frightened. there are other people in this world who are hurtful to children. That is not you. So, see---they are worse mothers than you.

You are NOT the worst mommy.

I'm sorry that this happened though.

To make you feel better: here's my worst mommy moment....that only a few strangers know about b/c they saw it happen.... I was at the mall with my son. He wanted to spin. So, he ran to me, and was spinning in my arms (big open area....but a tile floor). He slipped out of my hands while spinning, and I basically accidentally threw him about 5 feet to where he landed on the hard tile floor. I threw my son to the ground. It was on accident, but he & I both left the mall just crying our eyes out. I was too embarrassed to even call my husband for support. I sat there in the play area of the mall just rocking him & crying with him. He was not injured, but my heart was broken.

3:16 PM  
Blogger Lisa & Nathan said...

Reading these has made me feel better, and I hope it has made you feel better too. A week after Thanksgiving my ten month old son fell out of his Bumbo. I knew he was too old for it, but at the time I didn’t have anything else to put him in. We had just moved from our small apartment into a house and didn’t have a high chair. What makes it so bad is that I could have put him on a blanket on the floor in the kitchen next to me, but I was afraid that he would get into something. It was horrible. He was on the floor reaching for a toy he had dropped, and in slow motion he just slid out and fell on his little lip. I just couldn’t move fast enough. I screamed for my husband, which just scared the baby more. His little lip was swollen and bleeding from where it hit his teeth. I still feel guilty about it. We got a high chair three days later, and his Bumbo currently resides in the back yard were I threw it. At least I know that I’m not the only one who feels “Mommy Guilt!”

11:00 PM  
Blogger Pregnantly Plump said...

Thanks for the kind words. They definitely help.

1:04 PM  
Blogger Marla said...

I had a similar incident. I cried too. Once I dropped her in the car seat too. Being a mom is tough.

9:23 PM  
Anonymous Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You said...

oooh Meredith! You must have been scared ! Sorry it's taking me so long to catch up, but I just wanted to say that our kids don't remember their babyhood for a reason LOL *hugs* Remind me to tell you about the time I sat Anthony up in a chair at a store, and although HE COULD sit up at the time, he thought it'd be more fun to fall off the other side of the chair. good times. NOT.

8:50 PM  

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