Monday, February 25, 2008

The blame game

There are many wonderful things about marriage, and some are even right in the marriage vows. You get someone to hold you and love you in sickness and health, in good times and bad. These are great and they are true, but there are other great benefits of marriage that aren't talked about on the wedding day -- such as laying blame.
Bob realized this benefit shortly after we became engaged. I don't remember details, but someone wanted him to do something that he didn't really want to do. He had just moved to a new city and didn't want to seem like a stick-in-the-mud. So, he mumbled something about needing to do something with me... and got out of the predicament unscathed!
He emailed me immediately after, very proud of himself. This didn't bother me. I didn't know that person and certainly didn't mind if they thought I was mean for not "letting" my fiance do something.
Why come across as a jerk or a shrew? It's so much easier to blame your spouse.
We've since used each other as a cop-out several times. I didn't want to be forced to buy something I didn't want from a co-worker, so I said Bob wouldn't let me spend the money. Yes, he came across as overbearing and cheap, but he told me that he didn't mind. And I didn't have to buy that bracelet!
Now that we have Little Elvis, I'm thinking about roping him into our little blame game. Don't want to go somewhere inconvenient? The baby has to nap. Don't want to spend too much money eating out at an expensive place? Little Elvis is now at the age where he acts up in restaurants, so.... I'm sure he won't mind, at least for now. And when he's older, he's more than welcome to blame Mommy and Daddy for things. Although I have a strong feeling, the blame will actually have merit most times.
Are there little-known benefits to your marriages/families? Please share!


Blogger Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

Oh My! too true.
I do hate it when my dh does this with his family though, they already disapprove of me:)

6:52 PM  
Anonymous Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You said...

lol Hubby has been doing this with 2 different car dealerships today "Oh , well I like YOUR car, but my wife likes the one over at XYZ" and vice versa LOL It worked, and we got $2,000 off the car, a new windshield and better financing LOL I have been a long time blamer too, and as long as it's mostly harmless, there's no foul... I think LOL

Hey, have fun visiting the family! poor bob, though!

9:48 PM  
Blogger Marla said...

Very interesting. I never quite thought about it that way. You guys seem like a very cute couple!

11:25 PM  
Blogger Ann(ie) said...

We do the very same around here. It works beautifully!!! ;)

2:44 PM  

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