Monday, August 04, 2008

Daddy makes him brave

Is it possible that Little Elvis is braver when Bob's around? Maybe this is all in my head.

A few weeks ago I took a tired Little Elvis to the play area at our mall. There were tons (quite possibly literally) of kids there. Little Elvis refused to move from my side. He wanted me to hold him and whimpered if I even thought about putting him down.

Not a week later, Bob and I took him to the same play area. And Little Elvis had a blast!! He ran everywhere and was his usual fearless self.

Now I'm not saying my little study was perfect. There were a lot more kids there when it was just me and Little Elvis was exhausted for that trip. Still.

There have been other instances, by the way. This one just gave me a direct comparison.

At our monthly library book reading, Little Elvis has been extremely shy. We were the second ones there yesterday and Little Elvis wanted nothing to do with the adorable little girl that was already there. He just buried his head in my neck and turned his back to her mommy.

I thought, "Would he be like this if Bob were here instead?"

Is that possible? I am shy, and have at times been painfully shy. Does he somehow sense that just walking up to people is difficult for me, and realizes that by hugging onto me and whining, he gives me an excuse not to?

Bob says he's shy, but he's not really. He's outgoing and gregarious. Does Little Elvis sense this as well?

I think he does. I think he's pretty good at intuiting moods. I also think I need to do a better job at disguising my shyness, because I want him to have friends and fun at the get-togethers I take him to.


Blogger Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

I think that kids are very intuitive, but there could be numerous things that contribute to his perceived shyness. Sleepiness, hunger, etc...
I would definitely make an effort to step out and smile at people, maybe strike up a conversation with the mom next to you or walk with Elvis over to some other kids and sit down next to them and play with him and talk to the kids.
This was a big issue for me as a parent, to step out of my comfort zone and chat people up. Kids can be a really great ice-breaker/convo starter. thankfully my eldest was not the least bit shy and he actually pushed me into talking to people.

2:46 PM  
Blogger Kellan said...

I never thought about this, but it might be possible that kids can sense these things - wouldn't that be interesting if it was true. They say animals can sense when we are afraid - maybe kids can too.

Have a good day - Kellan

3:28 PM  
Blogger Scarlet O'Kara said...

My girls both seem to be quite outgoing...just the opposite of me...on the outside I seem very outgoing, but I'm really a very shy person.


4:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You might be on to something there.

10:08 PM  
Blogger lisa said...

I know what you mean. I HATE meeting new people. I don’t think it has rubbed off on my little one though. Sometimes he likes people, sometimes he doesn’t. If you look even the least bit different there is a good chance that he won’t recognize you and he will get scared and clingy. He loves his Pop and Granny Boo, but if they aren’t wearing their glasses like normal he wants nothing to do with him. My brother came back from Ireland with a beard and it freaked him out. My little one was so scared of my husband’s boss because he had a mustache that he refused to cross in front of him to come to me. It’s the same with dogs too. He loves dogs in general but personally there are some that he just doesn’t care for. Sometimes I just don’t know what it is. But I know that Mom knows best and if you are sensing that Little Elvis is picking up on it that just might be it. And even though I don’t much like talking to new people either, I don’t think you have anything to worry about. From your blog I can see that you have quite a lot of interesting stuff to talk about.

10:49 PM  
Blogger The Burp Cloth Babe said...

You may be right...but I wouldn't be too hard on yourself. It seems my little one is more clingy and needy when I am around. When he is sick or hurting, he cries for me. When it is fun time, he shouts, "dadada..."

I think little ones can sense these things, and I am sure the roles vary from family to family. At the end of the day, I know he is doing just fine. You are far too involved with him for him not to be! :)

10:29 AM  
Blogger Kristi said...

Interesting. Isabella is definitely more clingy when she's around me as well. My personality is much more laidback (not exactly shy, but definitely not outgoing either) than my husband's in situations where I don't know anyone.

3:40 PM  
Blogger MoziEsmé said...

Wow - smart baby!

I've wondered how intuitive Esme is - there are times I've been pretty down and she doesn't seem to see it at all, for which I'm very glad.

I do think she's probably more confident with physical things when Daddy is around, probably because he is her big protector and catch-all. Though she doesn't seem to lack confidence any of the time. Definitely daddy's girl!

7:38 AM  

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