Thursday, April 30, 2009

Big groups need not apply

Yesterday was plain awful. And I really could say that again, but don't feel like typing it twice. (reference to "Annie.")

I felt like the world's worst mother yesterday. My son does not like playing with groups of children. I know this. Me trying to force him play in a room with other kids is not right. I have to accept that my son has a whole lot of me in him.

I also have to accept that Little Elvis is also an explorer. He likes toys, but he prefers to wander around. He wants to explore, climb on furniture, and get into things he knows he shouldn't be getting into. That is fun for him.

Yesterday, during one of the few times that he wasn't crying, he recruited another little boy and they were "exploring" together. He likes this little boy and when it's just the two of them, they play very well together.

So, Little Elvis does have social skills, he just doesn't like big groups. I don't need to obsess about this, and will try not to. I promised him that I would do a better job of not forcing him to play if he's not interested. We will still try to do playgroups in homes, but I will make sure that it's ok if he roams to other rooms. And I will stand in doorways to make sure he doesn't try to do anything too dangerous.

There hasn't been an updated list of Little Elvis' loves in a while. So, here are his current loves.

ravioli (oly-oly)
yogurt (oghy-oghy)
oranges (ogees)
olives -- black and green
goldfish (gold-ish)
cheerios (oyos)

our neighbor's new puppy, Midnight
trying to bite fur off of Wally
chasing Slappy through the house
the pillows on Mommy and Daddy's bed (tidows)
gas station toy
kissing and hugging
pulling the heads off of gray dandelions
eating the remaining dandelion stems
playing "Where's Little Elvis?," especially in the shower behind the sliding glass door
Special Agent Oso, The Wiggles, and Shaun the Sheep (He loves sight gags and giggles all through Shaun the Sheep.)

watching The Wiggles

playing with the water hose
being upside-down and making his toys be upside-down (it took us forever to figure out what he was saying, despite his demonstrations.)

There are lots more, but these are the biggies right now. Little Elvis is much more expressive with words and he understands most of what we say now.


Blogger Laura said...

It is so tough to respect their personalities and not push. I am a true extravert and have one intravert child and two extraverts (one is a shy to new people gal!)...and I find it hard to not push them all to be super social and outgoing!

I love Elvis' list of loves! But you forgot one - his wonderful Momma!

1:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you're right, Little Elvis doesn't like big groups and that is okay! That's just how he is. If he was older he'd be telling you "please mom, can we leave? I really don't want to be here!". In his toddler way, that's what he's doing at those times, and it's okay to listen to him and follow his needs. Like you said, he does like playing with kids one-on-one, and that'll work fine for developing social skills. You're doing great!

8:46 AM  

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