Wednesday, July 08, 2009

He's NOT a girl!

We've been getting the girl comments about Little Elvis since he was an infant. It's always bothered me.

I am not that mother who dresses her son in pink, because it's his "favorite color" (Very obscure The Office reference.)

And since we knew he was going to be a boy, he didn't have very many gender neutral outfits anyway.

He could be dressed in entirely in blue, with a big on that said "Big Boy," and someone would ask me how old my daughter was.

Once he hit one, things changed for a while. He was pretty much bald, so I guess it was easier for people to assume he was a boy.

But for the past couple of weeks, we've been getting LOTS of girl comments. Lots. And it's frustrating.

One man in the grocery store told me I should cut off his curls, because people would think he was a girl. Apparently this man's mother never cut off his curls when he was young, and it stunted him to the point that he felt entitled to lecture me in the check out line. His son had a buzz cut. My son? Had a few blonde wisps curling under the edges of his baseball cap.

The next week, some woman in a different store asked me how old my daughter was. Little Elvis was wearing a black muscle shirt with a big orange car on it and carrying at least 2 or 3 cars. I told her that my son was 2, and walked off.

At our yard sale, some woman called him a girl. Bob said, he's a boy. The woman could not believe us. Why would we lie about that? Little Elvis was wearing his red Lightning McQueen pajamas and blue crocs. He was also carrying a flag, and parking his Little Tykes car between our cars.

I just can't believe that his hair could be the cause of the confusion. My dad fussed and fussed about the hair, but during our last trip, he admitted that it really wasn't that long. The curls make it look shorter.

And his clothes are pretty much all blue, bright red, or blue and red plaid. He has some bright orange and some bright yellow shorts with SpiderMan on them.

If Little Elvis wanted to run around with a doll or stuffed animal, I would let him. But he doesn't. He runs around with cars, flags, trucks, street signs and miniature orange cones. Some parents have commented on his low-ish voice (for a toddler.) He's fairly rough and tumble.

What is wrong with these people?

I think a new rule should be added to that unwritten list of questions not to ask unless you are completely sure of the circumstances. For example, we all know better than to ask the woman with the belly when she is due, because you just never know.

Asking about the little girl, when the child is dressed and acts like a little boy, needs to be added to that list!


Blogger mpotter said...

oh gosh! i'm sure it's frustrating.

i'm not quite frustrated yet, but i will say that it seems every day jovie's not in pink, i get a "he's a cute baby".

i was way more frustrated at all the boy comments i got when she was in my belly!

i for one love the curls.

9:55 PM  
Blogger MoziEsm√© said...

And here I thought it only happened to girls - that if people couldn't tell the gender, they automatically assumed that to be male was a compliment or the safe thing to assume. Grrrr... Esme gets called a boy all the time. Even in pink.

3:51 AM  
Blogger Biscuit said...

Well, that is just stupid. Where are all the dumb people coming from? I also happen to adore the curls!!

12:07 PM  
Blogger Me said...

I just ran into your blog. Love it :)

People ask me how old my 3yr old boy is...when she's dressed in pink or purple and her hair is in pigtails. Or "how old is he" when my 20 mo old is wearing a dress. So she has barely any hair. She's wearing a dress. And when my oldest was an infant? It didn't matter if she was wearing all pink with a pink blanket...we still got questions about my little "boy."

Some people are smart, haha.

1:13 AM  

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