Thursday, July 09, 2009

Timing

When we first told some of our friends about Baby Plum, we got a shocked "Was this planned?" reaction.

It kind of upset me, although our friends knew of our circumstances and it sure didn't seem like we had planned to expand our family right then.

We had, though. Baby Plum was as planned as babies can be.

But the week before we officially knew about him, Bob's company announced mandatory furloughs for every employee during the first quarter and pay freezes. And our landlord decided to up our rent several hundred dollars.

So, our timing didn't seem all that great at the time. We were so excited to finally be pregnant, but also very worried.

Our landlord backed off considerably when we said that we would just move. With the understanding that he would increase the rent at the end of August.
That gave us what we had needed all along -- a reason to start really working to get out of this area that neither of us like.

Since working remotely wasn't an option, Bob looked into getting his teaching certificate re-instated. He found out that he would need 150 online credits to get recertified.

In a period of about three months, my husband completed all of those hours. While holding down his full-time job, being a great father and husband, and doing other freelance jobs.

And the furlough couldn't have happened at a better time. The week Bob took happened to coincide with the worst of my early pregnancy symptoms. Little Elvis got lots of fun Daddy time and I got to rest.

When his company announced a second round of furloughs for the second quarter, the timing again worked to our advantage. Bob ended up going on several job interviews during our "furcation." He got two offers, one of which he accepted.

What does this mean? It means we are moving! We are finally, finally leaving this area. We'll be moving a whole lot closer to my family -- to an area that is affordable. We will be looking to buy a house, not looking at crappy rental properties with moldy walls.

Little Elvis will be surrounded by loving (and loud) relatives. He'll get to become buddies with his cousins. Once Baby Plum arrives, he will still be showered with attention, as will his baby brother.

When I was growing up, all I wanted to do was leave my home state. Get as far away as possible. But once I became pregnant with Little Elvis, something inside me changed. I wanted to be home. I wanted Little Elvis to grow up surrounded by relatives like I was. I wanted to be there for the impromptu cookouts. I wanted my grandparents to show up unannounced just to visit with Little Elvis. I wanted to be close to my parents, and I wanted our son to be close to them as well.

I consider myself extremely lucky, because Bob was fine with all of this. Lucky that he and my parents (all of my family) like each other. Lucky that he's willing to relocate once again. Lucky that he loves us so much.

At the beginning of the year the timing of everything seemed off, but it wasn't. It worked out very well for us, and I am so thankful for that.

So, next week, Little Elvis and I will be heading home. Bob will join us a few days later.

It will be a completely different leg on our journey, but we are all looking forward to it.

7 Comments:

Blogger Jeni said...

What great news, it just goes to show that everything happens for a reason. Congratulations on everything!

5:00 PM  
Blogger mpotter said...

Congratulations!! & Good Luck!
I'm very happy for you guys.

it seems that timing is always an issue- for anything big. but you're right, things do have a way of being timed right, even in the midst of such chaos.

we faced a little of the same fear of timing. tho' nobody in the world knew that we did in fact want children, and had been discussing/planning for 3 years-
we didn't expect it to happen as quickly as it did.

tho' i didn't confirm it for sure until the following week, my first sign i was pregnant happened (er, uh, "didn't happen") my very first day of my very new job! [she is, in fact, our 'congratulations!' baby. *ahem]

add on that i would be largely pregnant during all of Relay For Life season.

but it turned out great b/c i was able to leave work after RFL was done, and The Mr. (who travels the whole week for his job) had just gotten a local client. he not only got to "enjoy" my pregnancy, but the first 9mos of Little Bean.

i hope you guys will be happy once the chaos of moving ends. and it's so good for you guys to be close to family and friends!
YAY.

11:29 AM  
Blogger lisa said...

Congratulations! I remember you talking about wanting to relocate and I’m glad it’s finally happening for you guys!

2:27 PM  
OpenID zerbert said...

Yay, that's great! It's so awesome how sometimes things don't look that great, but it turns out being the best after all. It helps us during those times when things don't quite go how we'd like, we know it'll all work out in the end.

That's wonderful you'll be closer to your family. I can't wait to be closer to mine! Luckily here were are not too far from my husband's family, but I still miss my own family a LOT

1:31 AM  
Blogger Kristi said...

Yay! I'm so happy for all of you. Being near family is great (most of the time, anyway!).

10:00 PM  
Blogger Biscuit said...

Yeeeeeeyyy! That is wonderful news - congratulations!
I live two streets away from my parents and I love it! I wish you all the best on your move! : )

12:06 AM  
Anonymous Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You said...

Wow, exciting! Are you definitely having another boy? I went through the same thing with my oldest because of his curls - everyone thought he was a she. Drove me batty!

In any case, good luck with the move! We're working on doing that same thing *ugh* - moving to WV or VA. kill me nowwwww

10:16 AM  

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