Monday, April 19, 2010

Looking for buddies

How can you not love this little boy? I find myself wondering this most days. He's sweet, very loving, funny and loves to play just about any game.

He's also not shy, for which I am so thankful. (He inherited my aversion to sleep and most veggies, but not my shyness.)
And he wants friends to play with. When we first moved here, we were so excited to see all the play stuff in the backyards of the houses behind ours. So was Little Elvis.

Once the weather finally got warm enough, we were able to meet the families. Most of the children are older -- 6 and 5. The youngest is Little Elvis' age. She is shy and does her own thing.

The older kids were nice at first, but now they are mean to him. They exclude him, won't play with him, and the oldest will come to the fence and taunt him -- saying that he can't come over and play.

I understand that he's a good bit older, so playing with a 3-year-old probably isn't that fun. But is it necessary to be so mean? Little Elvis will go to the fence when he sees them and ask if he can come over, and then cries when he's rebuffed and it breaks my heart. Cracks it wide open.

If we do go over (which I avoid as much as possible) they won't play with him, and run from him. He thinks it's a game, and doesn't usually notice their rebuffs.

This happens with my cousin's kids as well. They are older, 5 and 7, and the little boy is so mean. We didn't have a family birthday party for Little Elvis because I couldn't take him being so mean to Little Elvis on his birthday.

Hopefully it's just an age difference, and by the time he's old enough to understand what's going on, they'll be more inclusive.

Until then, we're going for walks to look for other buddies, and playgroups at the park. And Little Elvis is waiting for Baby Plum to get big enough to play.
I hope they'll be inseparable, but kind to other kids who don't have siblings or are younger.

4 Comments:

Blogger Donna [at] Champuru.net said...

Awww, it's so sad to see other children being so mean to your own. That would just break my heart in a million pieces. :( I hope your children find some great playmates soon!

Aloha,
Donna

2:40 AM  
Blogger mpotter said...

oh so sad to hear about this.
kids really can be so mean. and i, too, hope it's just an "age gap" thing.

because *I* wanna be his friend!

good luck finding other kids.

1:16 PM  
OpenID zerbert said...

Aw, that is so sad!! I'm glad we haven't encountered that yet. But I remember it happening when I was small and it really does hurt. I hope you can find some better friends for Little Elvis around!

1:36 AM  
Blogger Kristi said...

Move to NY and Isabella will totally be LE's friend! I'm so sad to read this. We've been really lucky with older friends (around the age of 5 and 6). They're been really sweet to Isabella (they are the children of friends, not neighbors, though), so I have to think that maybe these kids are not learning some lessons at home that they should be.

8:05 PM  

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