Tuesday, December 14, 2010


These pictures are from a couple of weeks ago (when my baby had pretty, golden curls.)

Today, he's got short, messy hair and a big bruise on his cheek right under his left eye. He was bitten on Monday at pre-school. This is the third time he's been bitten since he started going to pre-school last year. The second time this semester, and we're not even at the end yet.

The teacher felt awful, and said the biter didn't seem to be provoked. He just lashed out, bit Little Elvis' cheek, drew blood, and then sat in time out. After calming Little Elvis down and cleaning out the wound, the teacher told me that Little Elvis went over to the biter and told him it was ok.

The biter sat in time out and his mother got a note. This doesn't make me happy. When we lived in Virginia, I know that at many preschools, kids who bit were sent home immediately. This kid wasn't. His mom got a note.

I don't think they should have paddled him, or anything. But I do think he should have been sent home early. What will they do if the child bites again? Make him stand in the hall? Send home a note with red ink?

And this is the third time! Three different little boys have bitten my child. Twice we know it was unprovoked. Once he came home with a bite mark on his cheek and the teachers had no idea.

This isn't a bad pre-school and he LOVES it. He adores his teacher this year and I like her much better than the teacher last year. But I don't quite know what to do.

No one wants their child bullied, and it already seems like Little Elvis will be a target. I remember being bullied when I was little and don't want that for my child. But I have no clue about how to stop it, or what to do if he gets bitten again. He truly loves his school -- he cried the week of Thanksgiving when he realized he couldn't go to pre-school.


Blogger Jeni said...

Three times bitten? Yikes! I agree that there should have been a greater repercussion for such a serious action. Time out for drawing blood doesn't really seem enough. Not having started Skyler at pre-school (yet) I don't really have any advice as to how to deal with the school. Hopefully the fact that Little Elvis likes his school will be enough to get him over this hump, and the biter doesn't strike again. Poor little guy :(

12:08 AM  
Blogger Ann Wyse said...

Oh my gosh! I think the biting is out of control. Maybe you could talk to the teachers about a different consequence for biters. I mean, really. I think the biting sounds epidemic and that some new measures need to be introduced. If I was a parent in this school, and I heard one child had been bitten THREE times, I would certainly support new consequences. Especially in the case of blood-drawing, there are serious health concerns.

Of course, I don't really know the situation, but instead of thinking about this from a bullying perspective, I'm proud of little Elvis for being a pacificist.

11:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aw, poor kid! And what a loving forgiving nature, to go over to the biter and say it's okay!!

12:06 AM  

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